Google Something Clever 2.0: You Can't Be a Sexist Feminist

Jan 28, 2014

You Can't Be a Sexist Feminist

I saw a cutesy quote on Facebook the other day that really pissed me off: “If you think that women are the weaker sex, try pulling the covers back to your side of the bed!”

Just me? Or did you have a rage-stroke, too?

You can’t fight sexism with sexism. That is literally the dumbest thing ever. Did the person who wrote that really set out to change minds and challenge the status quo, though? Probably not. She probably just thought she was being funny. “Tee-hee, men hog the blankets!” But it’s not funny. It’s sexist.

Pay attention, ladies: you cannot ask men to stop being sexist, and then be sexist yourself.

It seems that every time I turn on the TV lately, there’s another commercial or sitcom taking potshots at men. “LOL, dudes can’t do laundry or take care of kids!” It’s okay, because it’s true! Men are privileged and need to get knocked down a few pegs, right? Wrong. Any sexism is bad. All sexism is bad.

And don’t give me any of that crap about “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander,” either. It was never good for the goose. It’s not good for anyone.

If your boyfriend blamed your bad mood on your period, you’d be livid, correct? Yet we have no problem complaining when he gets a “man cold.”

We wring our hands over the negative stereotypes Disney and Barbie present for our daughters, and then we teach our sons to always hold the door for a lady.

We’ve replaced our go-to feminist war cry, “We Can Do It” with a pink, glittery “Girlz Rule, Boyz Drool.”

The way to fight sexism against women is not to try to counterbalance it with sexism against men. Treat all people equally. Teach your children to do the same. Pay attention to the words you use, and ask yourself, Would I say that about a woman? What makes it okay to say that about a man?  (Unless, of course, the phrase in question was about genitals or facial hair.)

That’s the only path I see to true equality. Now, knock it off with the shitty memes, would you?

This post originally appeared on In the Powder Room